1.) We exist. There is no
such thing as a church that doesn’t have any divorce kids. If you think your church doesn’t have
any, it’s because people are ashamed to admit it. With divorce rates being what they are, it’s next to
impossible to have a church that doesn’t have any DK’s.
2.) We need a voice, and a safe place to use
it. The church was not designed to be a fortress
designed to keep sin out. It was
designed to function as a spiritual hospital for sinners. The church has, thankfully, become a
place where more and more people are able to safely open up about addictions
and other issues. For the most part,
the church continues to be a dangerous place for divorcees and DK’s to share
their stories and their struggles.
This needs to change.
3.) We value Scripture and the sanctity of
marriage as much as you do, even if our interpretations of Scripture aren’t
identical to yours. One of the most common misconceptions
that church leaders have had about me as a DK is that I throw the Bible’s
teachings on divorce out the window.
This couldn’t be any further from the truth. When I say that my experience as a DK has changed my
interpretation of Scripture, the response should not be to question my salvation,
call me a heretic, or accuse me of Gnosticism. The correct response would be to ask me for my views on this
subject before jumping to such ridiculous and inappropriate conclusions.
My next post on this subject will be for adult DK's in the church. I will try to get that up hopefully by the end of next week, but I'm juggling a lot of other responsibilities right now.
